Israel vs. Palestine

I received this request on 8/24/14 but needed to spend some time thinking and reading more about it.  The original question: “What perspective can you add to what’s going on in Israel/Palestine? It seems horrible to me from either perspective, and I’m […]

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“Making it Big”

If there’s one (new) thing I’ve gathered from the roiling discussion of Robin Williams’ death the week after the news broke, it’s that we are either misunderstanding or misusing this idea of “making it big.”  In the first place, in the days […]

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“My Brother’s Keeper”

I’m probably not alone when I say that responsibility to and for others makes me squirm.  It may have something to do with growing up in an unapologetically individualistic society, where everyone is supposed to be able to do everything for and […]

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“Modest is Hottest” and the Perpetuation of Sexual Brokenness

Original request (received 8/17/14 – sorry to be a bit of a slacker!): “What are your thoughts on “Modest is hottest”?”  My initial reaction, honestly, is that, if it weren’t for the sexism and judgment, the slant rhyme would be kind of […]

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“Reaching Out”/”You Are Not Alone”

Just in case anyone’s wondering, I’m not going to be doing any personal exposes on my own experience with depression (beyond saying this article is so very yes in hopes of encouraging understanding) as it seems to be all the rage to do […]

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“Start Small”

We’ve all heard – and maybe even expressed – the sentiment that it’s the small things that count.  Sure, a romantic trip to Rome for an anniversary with surprise clues the weeks leading up to it really makes a woman feel loved (one […]

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Offering Aid: Helping Vs. Hurting

My first request (received August 15th)!  My plan is to post responses on weekends to any topic requests that come in and stick to my regular Tuesday-Thursday posting so we’ll see how that goes. This is a convoluted but necessary topic to […]

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“If You Don’t Love Yourself, No One Else Will”

When the positive thinking guild says, “If you don’t love yourself, no one else will,” I think they’re trying to motivate people to prioritize self care.  I think they’re trying to emphasize the importance of self esteem and self love.  It’s true […]

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“A Permanent Solution to a Temporary Problem”

This phrase has deeply irritated and offended me for a long time and, with the beloved Robin Williams’ apparent suicide yesterday, it’s unfortunately made an appearance in every comments’ section of every article I’ve read about him (yes, I know it’s a bad […]

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“The World Doesn’t Owe You, You Owe the World”

The idea that the world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something is insidious.  Not only is it everywhere, not only does it take on many forms, but it’s actually half true.  These are the most dangerous kinds of lies.  If […]

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