Defeating Trump and Trumpism is Defeating Fear – It Will Take Sincerity, Part 2

Picking up where I left off yesterday, these are scary times, and unprecedented ones in our national life. One presidential candidate has narrowly avoided a major investigation. Another candidate is temperamentally unfit for the office of the Presidency and facing his own […]

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Defeating Trumpism is Defeating Fear – It Will Take Sincerity, Part One

I’m taking a break from my new focus on vulnerability to say a few things about the election. I have a really hard time with people encouraging everyone to “get out and vote” without also encouraging people to become informed before they vote. Personally, […]

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If No One Died, Can I Still Be Sad?

I have, these past several silent weeks, been searching for a way to process grief. Most of what I’m finding follows a back-and-forth formula of the dehumanizing expectations of emotionally stunted and immature Western culture and the reality of those who have […]

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Sad Lady and the Halfway Point

  2016, the year I was warned would be the hardest year of my life, is half gone today. Should I think of it as the top of this gnarly crag and it’s all downhill from here? It’s been harder for me to […]

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Sad Lady, An Interlude

I had thought I found a new voice. Friends noticed a difference and I was filled up by their affirmations and encouragements even as I was facing a new way of being: sad not mad. But 30 years of loneliness, isolation and […]

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Sad Lady, Sounding Mad in Mourning

Unless you are willing to take care of me for a while, or take something off my plate, or spend time with me to ease the burden of aloneness, stop telling me to practice “self-care.” That’s a nice-sounding excuse not to show […]

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The Man In The Tree

A short version of this appeared in the Seattle Times as a letter to the editor today. Cody Lee Miller, the man who climbed a giant sequoia tree in downtown Seattle on March 22nd, was formally indicted Monday, April 11th. As if Twitter […]

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Sad Lady and the Persistence of Anger

I have a dear and longtime friend who has worked very hard to understand me, who does so well generally, and who has been integral to my life since 2009. He’s also been unfairly (to him) busy in a way that’s not […]

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Sad Lady Meets An Unexpected Kindness

I wanted a water filter that removed fluoride and had been saving up. My mom texted me on Easter, wishing me a happy one, asked if I had plans and if I needed a new spring dress. “I’ve been looking at some […]

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What If My [Mental Illness] DOES Define Me?

It’s heartening to see the media take up the call to action to talk about mental health after decades of silence. The problem is how its talking about it. The first major issue I see is with the unquestioned propagation of the biomedical […]

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