“If You Don’t Love Yourself, No One Else Will”

When the positive thinking guild says, “If you don’t love yourself, no one else will,” I think they’re trying to motivate people to prioritize self care.  I think they’re trying to emphasize the importance of self esteem and self love.  It’s true […]

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“A Permanent Solution to a Temporary Problem”

This phrase has deeply irritated and offended me for a long time and, with the beloved Robin Williams’ apparent suicide yesterday, it’s unfortunately made an appearance in every comments’ section of every article I’ve read about him (yes, I know it’s a bad […]

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“The World Doesn’t Owe You, You Owe the World”

The idea that the world doesn’t owe you anything, you owe the world something is insidious.  Not only is it everywhere, not only does it take on many forms, but it’s actually half true.  These are the most dangerous kinds of lies.  If […]

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“Just Average”

My ongoing struggle to figure out what to do with my life is worsened by seeing “so many others” around me do “amazing things.”  There are people writing truly helpful books, running nonprofits, rescuing animals, educating children.  One of my good friends even started her […]

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“God, Use Me”

I’ve been fretting about what to do with my life lately.  I feel like most things I try turn into chores and I lose whatever passion I may have had that led me to them in the first place.  This has actually […]

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“It Never Hurts to Try”

I sometimes catch myself saying this to myself to encourage myself to do something hard or unpleasant or that I fear I’ll fail at.   Submitting pieces of my writing to a prestigious publishing house, signing up for a class to learn […]

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“It is for freedom we’re set free!”

When I first started intentionally following Christ – or trying to, at least – one of the first things my best friend taught me about the Christian life was, “If it doesn’t bring freedom, it’s not from the Lord.”  This sounded too […]

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“This is My Body”

While they were eating, Jesus took some bread, and after a blessing, He broke it, gave it to his disciples and said, “Take, eat, this is My body” (Matthew 26:26).  This is My body.  Not being Catholic, I’m not one for transubstantiation, but this […]

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“God Helps Those Who Help Themselves”

A while ago, I wrote about my difficulty with the advice, “Let Go and Let God” and similar.  When the pendulum doesn’t swing towards abdicating responsibility for our own lives in the name of God, it can swing too far in the […]

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“Forgive and Forget”

9/11 was already 13 years ago; Columbine was 15, the SPU shooting, just a little over a month.  My grapplings with forgiving the perpetrators of these attacks have been delayed and are not nearly as in my face as they certainly are […]

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